Saturday
I don’t normally write in this manner, however the most amazing thing happened to me the other day that it deserves to be told just as it is, rather then in fancy words. I am one of those lucky individuals who has a very close group of friends. Now what started out as a group of just girlfriends has grown into, sisters, husbands, boyfriends, that weirdo that you know who dated that one time, etc. Over time they have also grown into much more then girlfriends, these people have grown into my family. We’ve been there for each other through the changes that life throws your way. We’ve held one another’s hands through formals, finals, morning coffee, deaths, hangovers, break-ups, marriages, and even sex and the city. We all consider ourselves to be so lucky to have found such a solid group of friends that even when we are taking one another for granted we know deep down that we all want the best for each other and whether we may recognize it or not, our lives would not be as deeply enriched as they are if it weren’t for the love and caring that we all get to experience everyday because of the bond that we have formed.
With that said as one of the single members of this group bringing your latest and greatest around is not always the simplest event. It’s sort of like bringing somebody you just started dating to the big huge, everyone including that weird aunt that drinks too much is there, Christmas dinner. Oh and you’re naked. Get it? Anyways, I can’t really give them that hard of a time since I am probably the toughest in the group infamous for being the one to say, “Uhm yeah that guy that you think is so great and fabulous is a total snake and nobody likes him and we wish you would forget he exists, and even though we’ll all make nice if he comes around, secretly just know everybody hates him”. So I guess I sort of reap what I sow when I bring someone around. Plus add in the fact that I am always sure to express to Mr. Right Now that these people are my family and if you don’t pass the test then you’re out. So add together nervous guy with overbearing friends that love to make me squirm and you get no conversation. They’re so busy checking him out and he’s so busy trying to not say the wrong thing that everyone gets uncomfortable drinks too much and then goes home feeling completely unsatisfied. Let’s not forget that when I make the “so whaddya think” phone call the next morning they don’t have much to say because the poor guy was a mute the whole time. Thus the relationship furthers itself until the next few times of hanging with the friends have passed, and they can finally form an opinion which is normally a negative one, however I’m too far into the relationship to cut it off simply because my friends say so and now I’m stuck with a sucky boyfriend that nobody likes and when he does do me wrong all my friends have to say is “I told you he sucks”.
Obviously this is not the most productive route when fishing in the single sea.
However, the other night the most incredulous thing happened. I went to a dinner with all of the friends and was accompanied by my Mr. Right Now, who by the way I think is fabulous, charming, wonderfully good in bed, and all the other things on my list of 64 items. Now this particular Mr. doesn’t have the cleanest past, he may have done a little goof up with me a few months back that my friends have all heard about and discussed at great lengths, so this particular meeting seems to have an added bonus of stress. I have faith though that my friends will be their sweet selves and I have lots of hope that Mr. will wow them as he as wow’d me. And Wow did I get what I asked for. After all the introductions, hugs, how’s work, school, bible study, the dog, blah blah blah. We sit down for dinner and as I pour myself a glass of wine I suddenly realize that as I look around the table everyone is laughing, telling stories, poking fun, and just enjoying one another. And Mr. Right Now is right in the middle of it and not even trying to! He’s sitting at the table making memories with people that I will forever hold in my heart, and he fits in perfectly. Just as he has with the rest of my life. I cannot express to you the joy that I felt watching someone else enjoy what I have gotten to be a part of for so long. It feels so good to have someone standing right beside me to experience the positive things in life with me. And as he wrapped up his joke and had everyone giggling he reached over and grabbed my hand and looked right into my soul where I forever keep this memory.
No matter what happens from here no matter how bad or ugly it gets that instant in time will always be one of my favorites.
With that said as one of the single members of this group bringing your latest and greatest around is not always the simplest event. It’s sort of like bringing somebody you just started dating to the big huge, everyone including that weird aunt that drinks too much is there, Christmas dinner. Oh and you’re naked. Get it? Anyways, I can’t really give them that hard of a time since I am probably the toughest in the group infamous for being the one to say, “Uhm yeah that guy that you think is so great and fabulous is a total snake and nobody likes him and we wish you would forget he exists, and even though we’ll all make nice if he comes around, secretly just know everybody hates him”. So I guess I sort of reap what I sow when I bring someone around. Plus add in the fact that I am always sure to express to Mr. Right Now that these people are my family and if you don’t pass the test then you’re out. So add together nervous guy with overbearing friends that love to make me squirm and you get no conversation. They’re so busy checking him out and he’s so busy trying to not say the wrong thing that everyone gets uncomfortable drinks too much and then goes home feeling completely unsatisfied. Let’s not forget that when I make the “so whaddya think” phone call the next morning they don’t have much to say because the poor guy was a mute the whole time. Thus the relationship furthers itself until the next few times of hanging with the friends have passed, and they can finally form an opinion which is normally a negative one, however I’m too far into the relationship to cut it off simply because my friends say so and now I’m stuck with a sucky boyfriend that nobody likes and when he does do me wrong all my friends have to say is “I told you he sucks”.
Obviously this is not the most productive route when fishing in the single sea.
However, the other night the most incredulous thing happened. I went to a dinner with all of the friends and was accompanied by my Mr. Right Now, who by the way I think is fabulous, charming, wonderfully good in bed, and all the other things on my list of 64 items. Now this particular Mr. doesn’t have the cleanest past, he may have done a little goof up with me a few months back that my friends have all heard about and discussed at great lengths, so this particular meeting seems to have an added bonus of stress. I have faith though that my friends will be their sweet selves and I have lots of hope that Mr. will wow them as he as wow’d me. And Wow did I get what I asked for. After all the introductions, hugs, how’s work, school, bible study, the dog, blah blah blah. We sit down for dinner and as I pour myself a glass of wine I suddenly realize that as I look around the table everyone is laughing, telling stories, poking fun, and just enjoying one another. And Mr. Right Now is right in the middle of it and not even trying to! He’s sitting at the table making memories with people that I will forever hold in my heart, and he fits in perfectly. Just as he has with the rest of my life. I cannot express to you the joy that I felt watching someone else enjoy what I have gotten to be a part of for so long. It feels so good to have someone standing right beside me to experience the positive things in life with me. And as he wrapped up his joke and had everyone giggling he reached over and grabbed my hand and looked right into my soul where I forever keep this memory.
No matter what happens from here no matter how bad or ugly it gets that instant in time will always be one of my favorites.
posted by Porsche @ 10:52 AM
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